“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” — Steve Jobs
Are you feeling like you have not achieved enough in your life?
Achieving a certain level of career success is hard.
Very hard !!!!
It’s very common for people to compare themselves to others or to their own internal expectations and feel like they haven’t achieved enough. It’s important to remember that everyone’s journey is unique and comparing yourself to others can be misleading, and judging yourself harshly can be counterproductive.
It’s also important to be kind to yourself and understand that achievement is not always linear. Sometimes, taking smaller steps or focusing on personal growth can be just as valuable as achieving large goals.
“No one cares about what YOU want — except Yourself.”
You can only control your own wants and desires. However, I wouldn’t say that absolutely no one cares about what you want. Here are some things to consider:
Your loved ones do care: Family, friends, and partners often deeply care about your wants and happiness. While they may not always agree with everything you want, they likely want you to be fulfilled and will support you in pursuing your goals.
Society at large has values: While individual motivations vary, most societies value things like fairness, kindness, and helping others. If your wants align with these values, others might care about and support them.
Collaboration can achieve more: Even if others don’t initially share your specific wants, they might care about the outcomes your wants could lead to. Working together to achieve shared goals can be more effective than pursuing them alone.
Communication is key: If you want others to care about what you want, you need to communicate it effectively. Explain your reasons, listen to their concerns, and find ways to collaborate where possible.
Balance is important: While self-awareness and prioritizing your own desires are important, neglecting the needs and wants of others completely can damage relationships and create isolation.
Instead of focusing on what you feel you haven’t achieved, here are some things you could do:
- Set realistic and achievable goals: This will help you feel a sense of accomplishment and progress.
- Focus on your strengths and passions: This will help you feel more fulfilled and motivated.
- Celebrate your successes, big and small: This will help you maintain a positive outlook and continue to strive for your goals.
- Practice gratitude: Focusing on what you are grateful for can help shift your perspective and increase happiness.
- Seek support if you need it: Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you understand your feelings and develop coping mechanisms.
Remember, you are not alone in this. Many people struggle with feelings of inadequacy or lack of accomplishment. With self-compassion, realistic goals, and a focus on your own journey, you can find fulfillment and happiness regardless of what you have or haven’t achieved.
Also, “If you do not sacrifice for what you want, what you want will become the sacrifice. “(read that again)- If you don’t put in the effort, dedication, or even temporary discomfort to pursue your goals, those goals themselves may ultimately slip away due to missed opportunities or lack of commitment.
In short, it all comes down to your choices. Your priorities. That’s what makes you who you are.
Are you ready to sacrifice your goals because you want to stay where you are and feel uncomfortable moving away from your zone?
While sacrifice can be necessary, remember to consider your overall well-being. Don’t burn yourself out or neglect other important aspects of your life in the pursuit of your goals.
Find a balance between striving for your goals and accepting what life brings, prioritizing your well-being along the way.
“Never try to please other people.”
You can only satisfy them temporarily. In the long term, you will have resentments because you did not go for what you wanted. So, don’t rush blindly; gather relevant information and consider potential consequences.
The only person who cares for what you want is YOU. Be an individual. Be independent. Financially, emotionally and spiritually.
Decide when compromise is beneficial and when it’s important to stand your ground.
“Don’t blend in when you were born to stand out.” — Dr. Seuss
You are born alone in this world and you will die alone, why do you seek the company of others?
You can enjoy the company of others but don’t seek it. When you are an individual, others will seek that company with you and that’s enough.
You see, commitment goes both ways.
You can keep your commitment to others, but you will be breaking your commitment toward your own growth and future. And you will feel bad about it later in life because you did not prioritize yourself.
And then you will blame others who prioritized their own needs over yours. But come on, everyone will prioritize their own needs and try to manipulate you into getting them what they want.
The only person who can prioritize your needs is Yourself. No one else. Once you understand the harsh reality of this world, you will know what decisions to take.
Remember, personal growth and a fulfilling life often involve navigating complex situations, finding healthy balances, and advocating for your well-being while recognizing the importance of meaningful connections.
And finally, never postpone your decisions.
There are no right decisions or wrong decisions.
Remember, effective decision-making is a continuous learning process. Reflect on your past choices, learn from them, and strive to find your own balance between decisiveness and thoughtful deliberation.
“Don’t be afraid to take risks. It is better to regret something you have done than something you haven’t.” — Lucille Ball
You make a decision and make it right. That’s it.
“One-Way Ticket: Ditch the Routine, Embrace the Unknown.”
So decide now.
Leave.
Leave your parents (but still love them).
Leave your relationships (if they are toxic).
Leave your friends (if they are boring).
Become independent.
Become You.
Build You.
Nothing else matters.
“Be an Individual”-to Spark your authenticity. Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” — Oscar Wilde
Remember: Being an individual is a journey, not a destination. Embrace your unique qualities, fearlessly pursue your passions, and never stop learning and growing.
That’s all for today. Please engage with my article by highlighting something you found interesting and commenting. Come back soon.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my article! Appreciate the continued support!
If you have a related query, feel free to let me know in the comments below.
Be part of my community by subscribing /following my blog for more industry content and discussions.
Also, share the article with people, you think might be interested in reading it.
FYI: this article also appeared on my medium blog post.
It would mean a lot to me and it helps other people see the story.
I look forward to your response!
Thanks and Regards,
Neha Sahay
1 Comment
Puneet · April 1, 2024 at 4:12 am
Your blog is a symphony of thoughts, each one adding depth and richness to the melody of life.